It has been years now that I have stop researching articles about a person’s fight to regain custody of their children from Child Protective Services. It is just too painful. Recently I decided to revisit the topic, and came across a book written by a woman who also had lost her grandchild. So I sent an email off to her sharing my plight, and she took the time to answer my email. She expressed her sorrow and suggested that I share my feelings with other grandparents who have also had to go down the deep dark path of loss. She also offered a practical suggestion, to keep a scrap book for Angel and Armoni, so that can see what happened during the years that they were away for us.
I fight the feelings of resentment for Cps, the foster mom Kathy, and my own daughter whose strength to fight for her children was weaken by drugs and mental illness. I still ask what person or organization would dare to keep children separated from families that love and can take care of them? Sometimes I can thwart the feelings of resentment and other times it sneaks up on me. The damages of resentment are costly; it ruins one’s physical and emotional health, as well as relationships with others.
I pray that one day Kathy, will see it in her heart, that Angel and Armoni are missing us their God Given Family and will allow a visit or at least a phone call. To date this has not happen.
I encourage anyone who has shared our experiences and those who do not believe that there exists an agency that separates children from loving family members who will keep them safe from anyone who will cause them harm. The book, Remember Cynthia Rose: Grandparents fight to keep their grandchildren
I like to end this post sharing one of the reviews posted on Amazon by a reader of Jeanne's book.
“Because of Jeanne Sinclair-Krause's book "Remember Cynthia Rose" Cynthia Rose will know that her family loved her and fought for her. Many children will never know that anyone in their birth family cared. The great problems of the world are horrific, but they should not distract us from the personal dramas that leave dying families and wounded children. It is terrible when a family loses an adult member. It is criminal if a good, loving family loses the right and responsibility to care for the children of that adult. Often the cohesion of the core family doesn't survive the multiple loss. Social service agencies and community leaders will eventually understand what has happened and have to answer for the loss this child and her family have endured. As states are awarded funds for proper adoptions they should be fined for improper ones. Read this cautionary story and add your voice to the choir by talking to others about this problem and contacting your legislature for changes. I anxiously watch for more to come from this social detective.”
